Marriage resembles a pair of shears joined together so that they cannot be separated. Often they move in opposite directions.
Before marriage, a man declares he would lay down his life for her; after marriage, he won’t even lay down his newspaper to talk to her.
Said ~ Helen Rowland ~
By Sanjoo Thangjam
WHAT PEOPLE WANT WHEN THEY ARE MARRIED
A Wife needs:
Tenderness,
Courtesy,
Sociability,
Understanding,
Fairness,
Loyalty, Honesty and
Good companionship.
A Husband needs:
Love,
Attentiveness,
Family obligations,
Faithfulness,
Understanding,
Loyalty,
Proper food and
To be calmed when he is in a mood.
MARRIAGE IS A BLESSING
Marriage is a blessing but many people turn their married lives into a curse.
The institution of marriage is the socially recognised union between a man and a woman that serves to legitimise their children. The official union of a man and a woman is common in every modern society and helps to ensure that children have a secure upbringing. Human beings have recognised marriage relationships for thousands of years, but marriages based on free choice and love are more common today.
Marriage is an institution that admits man and woman to family life. It is a stable relationship in which a man and a woman are socially permitted to live together without losing their status in the community.
Marriage is not merely concerned with the couple; rather it affects the whole society and future generations.
In previous centuries arranged marriages were usual; they are still common in many non-western societies, with relatives negotiating an advantageous match for both families.
Monogamy (marriage to one person at a time) is the general rule, although some countries allow polygamy, where a man has more than one wife at a time.
Polyandry, where a woman takes several husbands simultaneously, is rarer but exists.
Love is the passionate and abiding desire, on the part of two people, to produce together conditions under which each can be, and spontaneously express, their real self produce together an intellectual soil and an emotional climate in which each can flourish, far superior to what either could achieve alone. Marriage is one of the most fundamental and enduring social institutions.
In a true marriage, man and woman think more of the partnership than they do of themselves. It is an interweaving of interests and facing of sacrifice together for the sake of both. A feeling of security and contentment comes from mutual effort.
A family is defined as a group of persons united by the ties of marriage, or adoption, constituting a single household, and interacting with each other. Some form of family organisation is found in all human societies, although there are great variations in the type of families in different societies.
A family in the simplest terms, is the union of a man and a woman along with their offspring, usually living in a private and separate dwelling. This type of living arrangement, more specifically known as the nuclear family, is believed to be the oldest of the various types of families in existence.
Marriage is not a religious obligation, a means for procreation, or a romantic notion of love. It is simply an option for each individual to make. If an individual believes marriage will bring them happiness and keep them on the path of enlightenment, then they are free to make that choice.
Marriage resembles a pair of shears joined together so that they cannot be separated. Often they move in opposite directions.
Before marriage, a man declares he would lay down his life for her ; after marriage, he won’t even lay down his newspaper to talk to her.
~ Helen Rowland ~
Last but not the least – There is only one path for both. And that is –
In a successful marriage, there is no such thing as one’s way. There is only the path for both, the humpy, bumpy, difficult but always-mutual path.
(The writer is a Sub-Editor of The Morning)
